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Saturday, February 7, 2009

Technically speaking, He's Just Not That Into You

Have you seen He's Just Not That Into You? This film opened yesterday and since today is Saturday I thought I would provide a little preview of this romantic comedy. Technically speaking, He's Just Not That Into You, was not on my to-do list for February 6th, so I have not yet seen the movie, but I have seen the previews. I think this is one of those films that I might be able to convince my husband, Dennis, to see. Why? Eye candy! There are enough "big" stars, both men and women, in this film to keep everyone happy for 129 minutes. For your convenience, I have included a trailer for the movie in this post. You will see that the producers feel that the basic interactive groundrules for men and women are established when we are very young children, which is "he says one thing, but means another" and "she hears what she wants to hear." As an aside, I remember my first little boy "friend." In 1954-55 we walked to kindergarten each morning holding hands. His name was Raymond Wood. I think he was always nice to me!

Ok, here is the scoop: He's Just Not That Into You is based on a self-help book that was written by Greg Behrentdt and Liz Tuccillo. No, neither Greg nor Liz is a psychologist. Both were writers for Sex and the City, they based this book on a famous line from the 6th season episode called "Pick-a-little, Talk-a-little" which originally aired July 13, 2003(yes, the episode title is the name of an annoying song from The Music Man). Six years later and with a reported budget of $25,000,000 we now have a romantic comedy that will either make you laugh or help you escape today's crazy technical world for two hours.

Probably the most poignant message in He's Just Not That Into You is this: In today's world, unlike when I was wondering "why doesn't HE call?," a person can't just expect to hear from someone via a landline phone, they need to worry about every known "SOCIAL NETWORK:" myspace, facebook, youtube, plurk, plugoo, brightkite, ping, twitter, yammer, and the fatal text messaging via the cell phone. As Mary, played by Drew Barrymore, says: "It's exhausting!"

The fact is love, or what we hope will turn into love, makes us do foolish things. We are all guilty of this, we are human. In 1965 Martha (Reeves) and the Vandellas released "Love Makes Me Do Foolish Things," it never made it to #1, but many of us loved this song, because in 1965 and for a long time after that, our social networks consisted only of a phone and the Friday night mixer (dance). This song made us cry and if we were really lucky that special someone would ask us to dance and we would forget all our troubles. Escape!

So for this Saturday: Dance to this music,take a break and go away with your friend. Go to the movies or rent a movie,love the one you're with, and let me know how this works out for you, write a comment on my blog post.

P.S. For the record, if you are wondering what happened to little Raymond Wood. We continued through grade school together as friends. After that we lost touch. In 2006, my mother passed away. As I stood outside the church waiting for her funeral to begin, I looked across the crowd and there stood Raymond. He walked over to me, put his arms around me and said "I wouldn't miss being with you today." Precious memories, indeed!


  1. Just saw it last night,
    A fun distraction. Will probably get passed up at next year's Oscar's, but who cares? As long as it's entertaining it's successful and this was. I thought the two standouts were Justin Long and Ginnifer Goodwin, they held their own in a cast of seasoned pros.
    If I had to give at rating I'd give it a fun.

  2. I like the song. As for the movie, it looks like something I'd watch with my fiance but cannot imagine watching it with anyone else. A bit too much on the chick-flick side but still looks good.

    Will let you know what I think of it after Valentines Day if we end up watching it.

  3. Well, it appears that a lot of people saw He's Just Not That Into You this weekend. HJNTIY topped the box office receipts this weekend taking in 27.5 million. I guess it was fun and I will be seeing it.

  4. OK, I am going to admit to actually buying and reading this book in my single "pre-Darin" days. I had a little stack of dating books (a last ditch attempt to understand relationships). I never finished my studies because I met Darin and I figured he is the exception to the rule on most things so I will keep my research to just his case study.

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  6. I re-read this post today, as someone commented on it. Thought I would let you know that I finally watched this movie the other night. I was really surprised. It was a very interesting movie, pretty serious, dealt with a lot of relationship issues. Bottom line, I liked it.


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